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Post by thesameguy on Oct 11, 2015 14:56:50 GMT -5
Basically, I need avice on giving advice.
Sometimes I see property post about their personal problems and I want to help, but whatever I say either doesn't help, is generic, someone else says something better, or makes it worse. This has lead me to overthink what I should say, leading me to say nothing at all.
I've been meaning to post this 5 months ago, but my tendency to overthink has kept me from doing so until now. I keep thinking, "they'll probably say _______ "and then eventually I start thinking, "Would they say to keep out until someone else says something or just say it anyway?"
So now after all that, WHAT DO I DO? My overthinking and self consciousness are really getting me.
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Post by Yagyū on Oct 11, 2015 16:24:54 GMT -5
Advice can be tricky. It's not a topic I'm 100% good at but I can try to offer something. ~
It's not something to get super worried about or overthink. That only clouds your mind and makes it harder to offer clear advice. Come into it with a clear mind, but take in what they're saying. An understanding gives much better, much clearer advice as I had come to know years back.
I can understand the worry, I worried myself because I didn't know if I could help with advice, but the thing is people come to others usually they trust to some extent. People who usually know at least something about them.. With that I can say it might make the situation slightly easier or perhaps more complex, but regardless to me the most important thing is this...
Have a clear mind. If you really cannot think of something you could take that situation and either bring in another trusted person to assist or... Simply give your thoughts (depending on the situation.)
Once again I'm really sorry if I wasn't clear enough but I hope I offered something. ~
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Post by thesameguy on Oct 11, 2015 16:36:06 GMT -5
Thanks.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2015 16:36:57 GMT -5
I think that not everyone has the best ability to help others and that's okay. In my opinion, what matters most is that you care and also how you word it too because some people, like myself, can tell by the way a person says or types is how they feel about that situation. Even if it's just in text. Some people may not know, but text can also express too and this is coming from someone who would sometimes seem uninterested in a conversation when a topic doesn't really interest me.
In conclusion, as I said, we may not be great telling others advice here, but the least you could do is just do it. Even if it's generic like others would say since I've had problems with this as well, you at least care. It's not all about who is better at giving advice than the other. Just say what you want to say from your own heart and mind.
If this isn't helping then I apologize lol
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Post by thesameguy on Oct 11, 2015 19:02:08 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice guys. I feel better prepared to provide insight.
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Post by Yagyū on Oct 11, 2015 20:08:42 GMT -5
You're welcome. ~
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