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Post by cltheo on Jan 17, 2016 3:19:47 GMT -5
Well I hate to be a downer, but my father is currently in hospice. For years now he's been struggling with Parkinson's and he's now in the end stages of his disease. To spend time with him, I brought a bag of my things that help summarize my time growing up and interests I have [EX. An old baseball bat he got me at my very first baseball game, the PS1 we played, the star wars blu ray collection since he saws the movies while dating mom and took me and my sister to see the prequels, ect.] Unfortunately he gets very tired and the morphine is strong, so I barely had time to share anything with him before he dozed off into another nap. One of the things I managed to share with him was my weird taste in some video game titles. One that was shared was of course Senran Kagura. He thought the idea behind it was hilarious! He used to draw back in the day and he liked the art style. Hope to share more of my interests and possessions with him. Basically the point of me sharing this is that I hope none of you are ashamed to share with your family your taste in things. Of course there are limits to what is appropriate to really share with a family member or friend, but I wanted him to know the person I am today. Whether he was ashamed or proud of who I was didn't matter. When he goes, I want him to know the real me. I've seen a lot of people online get bashed for liking certain games but I never let it get to me. All I want to get across here is to share your stupid hobbies and interests with your loved ones. Let them know more about you. I always took care of my dad, but after all these years, I realized I don't know a lot about him, and vice versa. Now that I'm interested, he'll soon be gone. I don't want anyone else out there to feel how shitty it is to know that your loved ones might pass on without getting to know more about you. Don't be afraid to tell the world who you are.
P.S. Please excuse my chubby face single ladies! It's been a rough month and my handsomeness has suffered from stress!
P.S.S. Anyone got a way to share this with Mr. Takaki himself? I want him to know his creation created a fun memory between me and my dad!
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Post by Leon Tekashi on Jan 17, 2016 3:28:31 GMT -5
*Claps* That's very brave of you man. It's takes a lot of guts to tell your parents all of the things you love, especially stuff like Senran Kagura. I know it can be rough losing a love one, especially a father, but you have to remember. Even though you'll be depressed for a while after he goes, you have to keep your head up high and continue moving on to the future while being true to yourself. It may be difficult, but it's better than moping and not doing anything at all. I'm sure your father would want that. Still, hang in there man.  |
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Post by Trig on Jan 17, 2016 3:43:31 GMT -5
That's great you're able to do things like with your father, always cherish those memories you had together. ^^ If you wanna share that with Takaki you can tweet him twitter.com/kenichiro_taka |
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Post by thesameguy on Jan 17, 2016 4:27:12 GMT -5
My condolences.
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Post by cltheo on Jan 17, 2016 7:23:50 GMT -5
*Claps* That's very brave of you man. It's takes a lot of guts to tell your parents all of the things you love, especially stuff like Senran Kagura. I know it can be rough losing a love one, especially a father, but you have to remember. Even though you'll be depressed for a while after he goes, you have to keep your head up high and continue moving on to the future while being true to yourself. It may be difficult, but it's better than moping and not doing anything at all. I'm sure your father would want that. Still, hang in there man. Thanks man. Gonna see him today again and can hopefully talk to him more before he takes another nap! That's great you're able to do things like with your father, always cherish those memories you had together. ^^ If you wanna share that with Takaki you can tweet him twitter.com/kenichiro_takaIve tried sharing pics and such with him in the past, but never got replies or notices. This is more important to me though  Thank you! |
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Post by TheAtom on Jan 17, 2016 10:44:06 GMT -5
That's a pretty cool reaction and it's cool you get to share these things (even the little bit that you do)! I hope things will go well.
I think some people probably have less accepting parents than others, and I always consider myself lucky. I actually had my mom picking up the Agarest CE for me at the store...
As for other people... I have no omnifitting advise besides to make sure you try and be comfortable with your own interests (cause I know I'm not), and how to deal with the family situation is to be decided on a case to case basis. Just hang in there and know you're never alone. We're all here!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 17, 2016 11:24:12 GMT -5
I will say this...it's quite brave and sweet for you to do this. As Leon said, it's hard losing a parent like a father and all. I should know this - my roomie lost his dad 3 years ago as well, so you ain't alone in that ballpark.
Either way, we got your back on here. Hang in there and feel free to talk to us if something comes up.
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Post by Theodos on Jan 17, 2016 13:16:11 GMT -5
That's really admirable and a wonderful way to look at it. My deepest condolences !!!!
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Post by cltheo on Jan 17, 2016 16:53:03 GMT -5
That's a pretty cool reaction and it's cool you get to share these things (even the little bit that you do)! I hope things will go well. I think some people probably have less accepting parents than others, and I always consider myself lucky. I actually had my mom picking up the Agarest CE for me at the store... As for other people... I have no omnifitting advise besides to make sure you try and be comfortable with your own interests (cause I know I'm not), and how to deal with the family situation is to be decided on a case to case basis. Just hang in there and know you're never alone. We're all here! Mom saw some of my Evangelion figures and called them sluts (look up Evangelion plugsuits) I know she's pretty chill. Also accidentally sent her a Shinovi versus screenshot where Haruka told Ryouna that she wants to "mess her up." She's a chill person  |
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Post by cltheo on Jan 17, 2016 16:54:22 GMT -5
I will say this...it's quite brave and sweet for you to do this. As Leon said, it's hard losing a parent like a father and all. I should know this - my roomie lost his dad 3 years ago as well, so you ain't alone in that ballpark. Either way, we got your back on here. Hang in there and feel free to talk to us if something comes up. Thanks! Appreciate the support! |
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Post by cltheo on Jan 17, 2016 16:54:56 GMT -5
That's really admirable and a wonderful way to look at it. My deepest condolences !!!! Thanks! Hope he's up for more of my weird taste in things! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2016 16:06:55 GMT -5
Losing a family member can be real tough and it would take some strength to really get used to it. My boyfriend for example lost his grandmother to cancer of all things last year and have been taking it hard to really go through her old room during subsequent visits to her house.
I'm glad you were able to share some of your interests to him with no fear of rejection. You have my deepest condolences and stay strong for your old man.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2016 17:04:58 GMT -5
That genuinely hit me in the feels. My condolences to you and your father... ;_;
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Post by [Vitz!] on Jan 20, 2016 0:46:10 GMT -5
You're a hero. I shed manly tears. Also, my condolences. You will surpass this situation. And I shared this post with the rest of the world. Is there any problem with that? I mean, your experience showed in this topic is a important lesson to share in my point of view. |
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Post by cltheo on Jan 20, 2016 18:07:00 GMT -5
Losing a family member can be real tough and it would take some strength to really get used to it. My boyfriend for example lost his grandmother to cancer of all things last year and have been taking it hard to really go through her old room during subsequent visits to her house. I'm glad you were able to share some of your interests to him with no fear of rejection. You have my deepest condolences and stay strong for your old man. Yeah picking up his things from the nursing home will be tough. He's been sleeping all day and hasn't eaten since Saturday, but I left a childhood shirt and baseball bat at his bedside once we left. Just wish I could of shared more with him before that. |
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